So, it's been a week. I'm handling things well for the most part. Jennifer and I are still good friends. There are occasional moments of...awkwardness, but we're working together on this just like we have everything else. We really do work well together...on almost everything.
I visited Houston this past weekend and it was quite helpful. Some might consider it insane to drive for 14 hours on Friday night and then drive back for 12 hours on Sunday just to see people, but initially it was because I wasn't potentially going to see some of them all year and now it was because I desperately needed a sense of grounding, and it helped a lot. Family is a constant (at least as much as anything is a constant in the world) and it helps when you have good and loving relations with your family members. I hung out with Greg on Saturday, watching him play some of his games. One of them, Sins of a Solar Empire interested me quite a bit. Later that evening, we went over to Randy's new place and had dinner with Christy's family as well. It was quite fun. Simon taught me how not to hold a pool cue. I'm considering practicing a bit in the days and weeks ahead. Its a fun game and I think I might actually try to learn the higher end geometry elements of it (the bit with the dots on the side.) I listened to "The Lost Symbol" on the way up.
Monday night we watched Inglorious Bastards. I enjoyed it quite a bit. Tuesday I went to Jay's to get his help burning the DVD of "Other People's Musicals" which has come out quite well. I managed to remove all of the technical glitches that could be removed and it is by FAR the strongest I've made. Wednesday night I went to the final session of Jeff's D&D game. It was quite enjoyable, though the group is a bit large. There is still some discussion as to what will be done in the future.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Thursday, March 18, 2010
An Ending.
Jennifer and I will be filing our papers for divorce on April 30th, 2010. We do so parting as friends, and we are remaining in the same house for another month or two for financial and emotional reasons. While we love each other very much, there have been some issues at the foundation of our relationship that haven't quite matched. We've seen two counselors, and today our counselor was quite honest with us that this was a problem that he could not solve. We'll still be going to him a few more times to help make things as painless as possible.
I don't feel that the exact details of our relationship are fit for public consumption, but I will say that it is neither of our faults, that because of our backgrounds we had unresolved issues going into this and that one of the reasons we're going to the counselor and staying together a few more months is to help learn as many lessons from this as possible for the future.
We've been working on things for a year, so while this is still painful, I've had some time to come to terms with it. That by no means means I'm 'over' it, but it does mean that we can handle this in at least some resemblance of a rational fashion. Unlike previous relationships, Jennifer and I will remain friends, although how that friendship will manifest I'm not entirely sure. I don't really picture us 'hanging out' at all, but we still have a lot we need to work out.
All other projects, interests and considerations are on hold in life and (as they should be) must be reassessed. More details later as they are known and deemed to be shared.
I don't feel that the exact details of our relationship are fit for public consumption, but I will say that it is neither of our faults, that because of our backgrounds we had unresolved issues going into this and that one of the reasons we're going to the counselor and staying together a few more months is to help learn as many lessons from this as possible for the future.
We've been working on things for a year, so while this is still painful, I've had some time to come to terms with it. That by no means means I'm 'over' it, but it does mean that we can handle this in at least some resemblance of a rational fashion. Unlike previous relationships, Jennifer and I will remain friends, although how that friendship will manifest I'm not entirely sure. I don't really picture us 'hanging out' at all, but we still have a lot we need to work out.
All other projects, interests and considerations are on hold in life and (as they should be) must be reassessed. More details later as they are known and deemed to be shared.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Stuff
Well let's see here. We celebrated our anniversary at one of my favorite restaurants, Bocca De Beppo. We also got some rather nice coupon and a free cup cake. I got Jennifer two matching "Peace Sign" ear rings and a necklace of the same, as well as a $40 gift certificate to DSW. Jennifer got me "A Gunslinger Born" a graphic novel set in Stephen King's 'Dark Tower' series, as well as the Player's Handbook II, which should come in very handy for the 4th edition Dungeon's and Dragons game I'm playing right now. She also got me a rather cool Plastic Knight and several small useful utility knick knacks which I like a lot. I still use the Swiss Army knife she got me for Christmas a while ago.
Friday night we went to Jay's birthday party, which was quite fun. We talked a lot with other people and I got to know the other Sentinel project members. Jay showed more footage from "Architects of Fear" which is quite frankly looking pretty kickass. Saturday I spent most of the day working on "Other People's Musical's" over at Jay's. He did the Color Correction and after effects. This bled over into over TWELVE HOURS worth of work on Sunday. The result is pretty amazing. It isn't in HD any more and we still have a few synch problems which I am hoping to correct this weekend, but as of now I have a functional movie that I can submit to the Atlanta Film Festival. The real question is if I can fix the sync issues before the due date next week. Otherwise it will have to wait until the screening on March 27th. I'm also refilming "Dueling Morons" but Julie's original edit job was so phenomenal that I'm looking to recreate it shot for shot.
Monday I had to recover from the weekend of intense work on the film and do the writing of what had been displaced by the film. I had a lot of things 'come due' at the same time, and spent the rest of the week catching up...which I've mostly managed to do at this point thank goodness. Wednesday I started up another dungeons and dragons game with some of my friends. We played at CCP, which is pretty cool since they make Eve Online and various World of Darkness pen and paper role playing games. Neat place to do an rpg.
Tonight we are hoping to see Alice.
Friday night we went to Jay's birthday party, which was quite fun. We talked a lot with other people and I got to know the other Sentinel project members. Jay showed more footage from "Architects of Fear" which is quite frankly looking pretty kickass. Saturday I spent most of the day working on "Other People's Musical's" over at Jay's. He did the Color Correction and after effects. This bled over into over TWELVE HOURS worth of work on Sunday. The result is pretty amazing. It isn't in HD any more and we still have a few synch problems which I am hoping to correct this weekend, but as of now I have a functional movie that I can submit to the Atlanta Film Festival. The real question is if I can fix the sync issues before the due date next week. Otherwise it will have to wait until the screening on March 27th. I'm also refilming "Dueling Morons" but Julie's original edit job was so phenomenal that I'm looking to recreate it shot for shot.
Monday I had to recover from the weekend of intense work on the film and do the writing of what had been displaced by the film. I had a lot of things 'come due' at the same time, and spent the rest of the week catching up...which I've mostly managed to do at this point thank goodness. Wednesday I started up another dungeons and dragons game with some of my friends. We played at CCP, which is pretty cool since they make Eve Online and various World of Darkness pen and paper role playing games. Neat place to do an rpg.
Tonight we are hoping to see Alice.
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
4th Anniversary
Today is Jennifer and my fourth anniversary. It has been an awesome four years. Tonight we're celebrating by going out to eat and then getting our mutual present, a Wii Fit board. We're giving each other a few other things. Jennifer gave me a lovely chocolate rose this morning. Marrying her was the best decision I ever made.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Week in Review
Well last Sunday, Julie, Jennifer, Skip, Mom, Grandma and myself all celebrated Skip's birthday by going to the local Indian restaurant which had a buffet. It was quite nice, and we all got to talk a lot there and afterward. Before we also got to watch Skip play his "Lost Winds" game, and during we all played Wii Sports which was fun. The Wii is a extremely social game platform even for those who are casual or non gamers.
Early that day Jennifer and I checked out the local Universalist Unitarian Church. It was nice. The hymns were different than what I was raised with, but the music was neither too pop nor too late 16th century protestant reformation. It had just the right element of message, spiritualism, and ritual that I felt it appropriate and uplifted by it. It was also surprisingly not a negative experience in the slightest. Jennifer enjoyed it as well. We're considering returning in two weeks to investigate it again. I do want to investigate a bit about the creed of the organization, but given the other affiliations of some of those who condemn it, I consider that high praise. What I know certainly doesn't offend me.
Did an episode of the podcast again. Two short stories in a row. I've definitely come to the conclusion that I enjoy it more when I get others to read things I've written than my own reading. Some things only come out right when I read them but I think the best mix is when I write something tailored to an individual person; and I think that while the Red Anvil Podcast will always be a mix of both stories and poetry, I think that I get more emotional and creative satisfaction from the poetry.
The new job is AWESOME. I am an intermediate Tech Writer for Firethorn, which is a division of Qualcomm. I work in the UX Design department and my coworkers and boss are thus far very friendly and obviously intelligent and creative. The thing we're working on is a program called Swagg, which is an Iphone app that will basically incorporate all those loyalty cards cluttering up your wallet and put them virtually on your smart phone to free up space. There are few things else that it will do that are cool but I think those are more in flux and not as publicly revealed about what it does.
Over the weekend we saw Shutter Island, which was quite good. We celebrated the Dog's 10th birthday, which he enjoyed. He mainly enjoyed it because he got a lot of attention and my 'present' consisted of half a pound of random dog treats that we dumped on the floor to give him a complete smorgasbord of treats.
Recently Read: Inkdeath (liked)
We're Watching: The Wire (3rd Season), Farscape (Season 1), Supernatural Season 6, Lost, Burn Notice, Fring
I'm Reading: Iosorch, Rossam's Universal Robots (the Play)
Early that day Jennifer and I checked out the local Universalist Unitarian Church. It was nice. The hymns were different than what I was raised with, but the music was neither too pop nor too late 16th century protestant reformation. It had just the right element of message, spiritualism, and ritual that I felt it appropriate and uplifted by it. It was also surprisingly not a negative experience in the slightest. Jennifer enjoyed it as well. We're considering returning in two weeks to investigate it again. I do want to investigate a bit about the creed of the organization, but given the other affiliations of some of those who condemn it, I consider that high praise. What I know certainly doesn't offend me.
Did an episode of the podcast again. Two short stories in a row. I've definitely come to the conclusion that I enjoy it more when I get others to read things I've written than my own reading. Some things only come out right when I read them but I think the best mix is when I write something tailored to an individual person; and I think that while the Red Anvil Podcast will always be a mix of both stories and poetry, I think that I get more emotional and creative satisfaction from the poetry.
The new job is AWESOME. I am an intermediate Tech Writer for Firethorn, which is a division of Qualcomm. I work in the UX Design department and my coworkers and boss are thus far very friendly and obviously intelligent and creative. The thing we're working on is a program called Swagg, which is an Iphone app that will basically incorporate all those loyalty cards cluttering up your wallet and put them virtually on your smart phone to free up space. There are few things else that it will do that are cool but I think those are more in flux and not as publicly revealed about what it does.
Over the weekend we saw Shutter Island, which was quite good. We celebrated the Dog's 10th birthday, which he enjoyed. He mainly enjoyed it because he got a lot of attention and my 'present' consisted of half a pound of random dog treats that we dumped on the floor to give him a complete smorgasbord of treats.
Recently Read: Inkdeath (liked)
We're Watching: The Wire (3rd Season), Farscape (Season 1), Supernatural Season 6, Lost, Burn Notice, Fring
I'm Reading: Iosorch, Rossam's Universal Robots (the Play)
Saturday, February 13, 2010
The Happenings
Well on Tuesday we celebrated Valentines Day early and saw Mamma Mia. It was rather good. We both enjoyed it. But boy was it cold getting there.
I'm sure you all have read about the snow that's affected Atlanta. We both went home early, most everyone was let out. But we still got home moderately early. We were going to see Percy Jackson and the Lightning thief, but instead watched more Farscape, which is as good as I remember it being. Also, there were clearly a few episodes we missed. The snow was gone by the afternoon and I was able to run my monthly gaming group. It also looks like we'll be restarting the bi weekly group (different group) up again fairly soon which should be awesome.
My last day at Suntrust was finished yesterday. Awesome place to work in some ways, my boss was great and offered to act as a reference in the future. The security was annoying but I did get to work in one of the great big data centers where they have the mainframes etc. That was a bit of a first for me..but I had like...multiple badges that I had to keep on me pretty much all of the time. All of that has now been handed back. The BATHROOMS were outside the main area and required a special code to get in. BATHROOMS?! It was also nice to be able to take Marta to work and go through a few hamster tubes to get to work.
What else? We played a few wii games over the weekend before last. We both enjoy Lego Star Wars, though the sections where there is no obvious way to progress are REALLY annoying. Challenges are one thing, trying to figure out what to do next with out a reasonably clear path are just...frustratingly stupid. Jay and Dee helped us with Other People's Musicals which is coming along nicely. THE COMPUTER OF DOOM IS FINALLY UP. It has a functional graphics card, and I've got some trial software that I'm editing and putting the movie together on. I'll be working more with Jay on Monday to finish it.
I'm sure you all have read about the snow that's affected Atlanta. We both went home early, most everyone was let out. But we still got home moderately early. We were going to see Percy Jackson and the Lightning thief, but instead watched more Farscape, which is as good as I remember it being. Also, there were clearly a few episodes we missed. The snow was gone by the afternoon and I was able to run my monthly gaming group. It also looks like we'll be restarting the bi weekly group (different group) up again fairly soon which should be awesome.
My last day at Suntrust was finished yesterday. Awesome place to work in some ways, my boss was great and offered to act as a reference in the future. The security was annoying but I did get to work in one of the great big data centers where they have the mainframes etc. That was a bit of a first for me..but I had like...multiple badges that I had to keep on me pretty much all of the time. All of that has now been handed back. The BATHROOMS were outside the main area and required a special code to get in. BATHROOMS?! It was also nice to be able to take Marta to work and go through a few hamster tubes to get to work.
What else? We played a few wii games over the weekend before last. We both enjoy Lego Star Wars, though the sections where there is no obvious way to progress are REALLY annoying. Challenges are one thing, trying to figure out what to do next with out a reasonably clear path are just...frustratingly stupid. Jay and Dee helped us with Other People's Musicals which is coming along nicely. THE COMPUTER OF DOOM IS FINALLY UP. It has a functional graphics card, and I've got some trial software that I'm editing and putting the movie together on. I'll be working more with Jay on Monday to finish it.
Thursday, February 4, 2010
New Job
The big news is that I finally have a new permanent job in Technical Writing, with a possibility of future Project Management potential. I will be working as a consultant with SESC, nominally to be hired directly after a year by Firethorn, which is a company of Qualcomm. It represents a considerable raise and excellent benefits. But most important of all, it looks to be an awesome place to work which will greatly value what I do. I start on Feb. 16th.
This has been a fun week and a half. We’ve done a lot in a relatively short period of time. Last week we celebrated my birthday, a lot. On Wednesday Jennifer and I made splenda cookies. We didn’t make very many of them but the ones we had were quite nice. For my birthday on Thursday we had dinner at a nice restaurant called Wildfire. It was kind of expensive but enjoyable nonetheless. Jennifer gave me three dress shirts, two ties, an electric razor (very handy) and three books (two of which short story collections inspired by HP Lovecraft. I think the sixth novel at this point is almost assuredly going to be supernatural horror or a conventional mystery).
Friday night we celebrated my birthday AGAIN with Mom, Skip, Grandma, Jennifer and myself. Skip cooked some of his excellent pasta with a very nice salad. We watched the final episode of “The Prisoner” and had some very interesting discussions of things. Saturday Jennifer and I went to see a movie at the Danish Film Festival called Terribly Happy, which was very interesting. It was billed as Twin Peaks like…and it certainly was. Sunday night we stayed home and did little of consequence, but we greatly enjoyed doing little of consequence because we were both kind of exhausted from the events of the previous week and several other things.
This has been a fun week and a half. We’ve done a lot in a relatively short period of time. Last week we celebrated my birthday, a lot. On Wednesday Jennifer and I made splenda cookies. We didn’t make very many of them but the ones we had were quite nice. For my birthday on Thursday we had dinner at a nice restaurant called Wildfire. It was kind of expensive but enjoyable nonetheless. Jennifer gave me three dress shirts, two ties, an electric razor (very handy) and three books (two of which short story collections inspired by HP Lovecraft. I think the sixth novel at this point is almost assuredly going to be supernatural horror or a conventional mystery).
Friday night we celebrated my birthday AGAIN with Mom, Skip, Grandma, Jennifer and myself. Skip cooked some of his excellent pasta with a very nice salad. We watched the final episode of “The Prisoner” and had some very interesting discussions of things. Saturday Jennifer and I went to see a movie at the Danish Film Festival called Terribly Happy, which was very interesting. It was billed as Twin Peaks like…and it certainly was. Sunday night we stayed home and did little of consequence, but we greatly enjoyed doing little of consequence because we were both kind of exhausted from the events of the previous week and several other things.
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